Tuesday, September 16, 2014

15,000 Australian Sugar Daddies look for love online - more than half pick girls in the USA

Australia has a growing population of Sugar Daddies - but local ladies are not taking the candy.
That’s right, according to some fairly dubious figures there are more than 15,000 Sugar Daddies in Australia looking for love online.
If that isn’t disturbing enough, there is a bigger kick in the guts to come.
More than half of our ageing casanovas have shunned local sheilas, opting to date a Sugar Babe from the US.
A whopping 8400 older Australian dudes with big wallets have chosen to hook up with an American gal, according to SeekingArrangement — the online hook-up forum for people with kooky preferences.
Admittedly, the competition is tough.
The site boasts 900,000 ‘Sugar Babies’ from the US, while only 100,000 Aussie girls have taken the bait.
So for every Aussie lady there are nine Yankees — and America always has better shopping.
But to add insult to injury, the site claims American women are more popular because they are more like a ‘vacation’.
Huh? Everybody knows Australia is the world’s dream holiday destination.
We have koalas, the Great Barrier Reef, we are all sun-kissed and drink beer.
We are so good last week even Kim Kardashian graced us with her presence.
We also have fine female specimens like: Gina Rhinehart, Julie Bishop and that chick no one knew from Neighbours who starred next to Leonardo DiCaprio and is now really really famous.
Americans are not a walk in the park, let alone a vacation.
They talk funny, gamble and pose for before-and-after ice mugshots and get chased by cops.
Honey Boo Boo child — if you don’t know her Google it.
Not to mention an American Sugar Babe who may not like the diamonds you gave her could be armed with an automatic military-authorised weapon.
But despite all the evidence supporting our solid reputation as fun, life-loving, beer-guzzling larikans SeekingArrangment founder Brandon Wade says Yankee ladies are better.
“American women can be appealing to men of other cultures for a variety of reasons,’’ he said.
“Being with an American girl is like a vacation. From their vivaciousness to their sensuality and ability to be discreet, it is no surprise that most Australian men were interested in having an arrangement with American women.’’
Now to clarify for any confused readers a ‘sugar relationship’ is when older males are in their money-making prime and young women are in their money-needing prime and beauty prime. These three primes often converge creating the underground ‘older man financially generous to beautiful younger woman’ situation.
(Thank you Urbandictionary.com)
To many of us this is a gross concept. However the trend is growing.
In March it was revealed university students are turning to wealthy sugar daddies to help pay for education and their lifestyle.
Hundreds of young money hungry Australian students have reportedly signed-up for the site.
But for the naysayers fear not, all of our illustrious students have to beat nine Annoying Americans before they can take home the wrinkly prize.

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Sunday, January 19, 2014

Find a sugar daddy online has become the best choice for sugar baby.

With the passage of time the idea of sugar daddy dating has gained quite a lot of momentum.  Single women looking for sugar daddies over the internet has become common nowadays. Many single ladies prefer online dating, in the modern era, and with that dating a sugar daddy over the internet has become one of the best choices for them. Sugar daddy dating is not restricted to the concept of rich men looking for young ladies anymore. It means all the men who are looking for single women or mothers for dating or marriage.
Online sugar daddy dating has facilitated young women to quite a large extent. Means that they do not have to dress up, put on fancy clothes, wear makeup and go to a bar or club to find a sugar daddy. They just need to open their computer and search for sugar daddies online without having to practically go out and look for them. This gives them a wonderful opportunity to choose the best sugar daddy, according to their needs, from a long list of sugar daddies. This is one of the major reasons that long-term and happy relationships are created through online dating because one gets enough time to choose the best partner for himself/herself online.
Sugar daddy is a professionally and most importantly financially stable man who can easily take care of the needs of a young woman. This is the prime reason that women prefer sugar daddies nowadays because they need someone who can easily take care of themselves and the girl they are dating. They do not want to date a guy with financial issues, as simple as that. A sugar daddy knows the need of his woman well and thus takes good care of her financial needs. Financial security is a major reason of attraction for women seeking a relationship with a sugar daddy. On the other hand, a sugar daddy seeks young women who are not over 40 or so, or putting it simply it can be said that sugar daddies do not date older women.
It does not matter who you are or where you might be, you can find the right partner for yourself online at sugar daddy websites. Being single is no less than a curse in life. Do not waste your youth time in being single. Simply go over the internet and signup for a sugar daddy site. Many sugar daddy sites offer free signup and registration which means that you can signup for free and contact others too without paying anything. You should remember that signing up on these websites is very important because you do not want others to ignore your ad because of its seemingly un-reliability.  Who knows you might just find the perfect soul mate for the rest of your life. After you signup for a sugar daddy website search for either sugar babies or sugar daddies according to your requirement. Skip being single and get out there and take action to find yourself a Sugar daddy online today.

Wednesday, October 23, 2013

How to be a sugar daddy

BEING a sugar daddy isn't just about running around St. Tropez with a bevy of tanned 20-somethings on your aging arm.

Well, maybe it is, but it's not all sugar and spice. Sugar daddies have problems, too.

That's why Earn the Necklace - a website that shares stories of relationships between men and their kept women - has just hired a sugar-daddy advice columnist: A 45-year-old senior financial analyst who writes under a pseudonym, Trent.
Does he worry about being used for the cold hard cash? "Hopefully I'm not being used just for a pair of Christian Louboutin shoes," says Trent. "If I am, that would have been on the table from the outset."

Having everything laid out candidly has a certain appeal, he says. "We all have our price, be it money, shoes, security, intimacy or attention," he says.
But once your sugar baby has found you, what do you need to know? Read on for Trent's five pearls of wisdom for sugar daddies.

Don't become intimate too quickly: You might be tempted to seal the deal that first night. Don't! A real sugar daddy will wait until he's comfortable with his sugar baby. And no one can really know that on the first date. Go out on dates at least a few times. Take a cue from Millionaire Matchmaker Patti Stanger: No intimacy before monogamy.

Set firm boundaries: Be upfront, and make sure you both know what the boundaries and expectations are. Sugar daddies should not put anything in writing relating to compensation. And she has to trust he'll live up to his end of the bargain, just like he hopes she will hers. Verbally agree on initial dos and don'ts, and allow room for the relationship to evolve. Agree on what pampering her will entail. She might not want to be handed an envelope stuffed with cash, for example, and you might not be content with doling out foot massages and eating in every night.

Be respectful: A sugar daddy needs to respect his sugar baby and listen. The sugar baby/sugar daddy relationship may be unconventional, but it's important to remember it's still a relationship; it's not just a business transaction. She's not your possession, chattel or employee. Her needs need to be met as much as yours do.

Make an effort: There needs to be an emotional and physical connection, and you need to share some of the same interests - or at least be willing to. Even though you have the bank account, you still need to keep your sugar baby happy. Why? She could become disinterested and leave. Chances are you couldn't have dated her without your money - so make an effort for her to actually like you. This is where things can get complicated. If a sugar baby is getting too attached, for example, it's best for the sugar daddy to remind her of how they met and what the expectations are. The reverse is also true: A sugar baby should remind a sugar daddy about their relationship.

Don't make it all about money: The sugar daddy has the money, and the sugar baby has the sugar. Both have what they know the other person wants. Money may be part of the equation, but it's not a bargaining chip. The relationship is about willfully fulfilling each other's needs with something you can easily give. It's not so different from knowing your wife likes flowers and sending her a bouquet every week, for example. In this case, you're simply fast-forwarding to that phase.

Friday, September 13, 2013

Where Has All the Sugar Daddies Gone?

No, the title of this post is not meant to be some cute ambiguous headline carefully crafted to garner the attention of readers with a catchy title about the stereotypical old man sugar daddy when the post is really about the super sweet Sugar Daddy candy.  This post is definitely about the stereotypical old man sugar daddy on the prowl for young, beautiful women.  Where have they gone?

If you couldn’t tell by now my real-life conversations are as varied as my interests and blog topics.  At one moment I can be intensely chatting about world issues and in the next moment I could be caught up in snarky laughter with friends about how to climb the proverbial career ladder by doing all the wrong things in 11 Steps. Thus my lunch time conversation with colleagues spun from how quickly progressive diseases cause our body’s to decline to how the recession has nearly eradicated the once great and bustling sugar daddy.  Where have they all gone?

A few weeks ago my colleague told me a tale of how when she was a young woman in her early 20’s blessed with a perfect Coke bottle shape (Yeah, I know. People tell tall tales of what they once had and were knowing you have no ability to fact check their story, but given that even with the extra pounds she’s still pretty shapely in her mid-50’s I believe that she was a double knockout in her hay day) she garnered the attention of quite of few men, many who were at least 10 to 20 years her senior and had an affinity for the finer things in life, including fine young sugar babies.

As we laughed at her stories about the quintessential sugar daddy of the 70’s and 80’s – a man I imagined to be a hybrid of some cat daddy wearing a zoot suit and fedora and an old man sporting suspenders and a pocket watch – I started to wonder where the sugar daddies are hiding these days and how does one become a sugar baby.

Now hear me out.  I am not – I repeat, I am not looking for a sugar daddy, although if some young man, old man, sugar daddy or sour daddy is offering to rid me of my nemesis Sallie Mae then I declare:  I want to be a sugar baby!

So here I am on the quest to find the sugar daddy of the 70’s and 80’s and the sugar baby who does what exactly to attract him?  Looking pretty is not the only attribute, if at all.  Youth doesn’t have to be on your side either, or so it seems.  Of course being a P.Y.T. – the “pretty young thang” of Michael Jackson’s 1982 hit doesn’t hurt the sugar baby’s cause, it’s just not a mandatory requisite to hold the title.  Apparently sex isn’t on the obligatory list of “to do’s,” but sex appeal is.

Because I want to bring you the best content possible I went on a mini hunt.  By mini hunt I called one of my aunt’s who unfortunately was unavailable for my impromptu interview.  Moving on.  Called my mom who said she knew nothing of the whole sugar daddy-sugar baby “situation,” but she did suggest that a perspective sugar baby go on to “the sugar daddy website” she recalled from a “Dr. Phil” episode.  Doubled over in laughter from Mom’s response I took it a step further and expanded my faux-research base to include the opinion of a man.  According to the man who shall remain nameless, a sugar baby cannot be a sugar baby without upholding these very important Sugar Baby Principles:
  •    Be Discreet
  •    Be Accommodating
  •    Know Your Role
  •    Do not, under any circumstance, catch feelings
Amazed, but not all that surprised by how quickly Nameless Fella was able to riddle off a short list of laws a sugar baby must live by, I hurried off the phone convinced that I was just on the phone with a former sugar daddy.  I presume he is no longer a sugar daddy because he may very well be too broke to maintain a sugar baby, at least not a veteran sugar baby.  The real gem, though, came from my cousin who said, “I don’t know what a sugar baby must do.  Bottom line is a sugar daddy is a man who wants to feel young and desired.  They like pretty women and are willing to pay for the price of youth.  For them youth comes at the hands of a pretty young woman who can stroke his ego.”

So on that note, where has all the sugar daddies gone?

Friday, September 6, 2013

'Sugar daddies' a learning experience for students

Playboy founder Hugh Hefner, 86, is a hit with young women.

A US-based dating website says it is helping more than 80 Brisbane students pay for university by connecting them with willing "sugar daddies".

The website,Sugardaddybrisbane.com, has released a list entitled "Australias Top 20 Fastest Growing Sugar Baby Colleges of 2012", which shows the universities where alternative fee-help is most frequently sought.

While the University of Sydney topped the list, there were 45 students at the University of Queensland “seeking a mutually beneficial relationship” last year, and 37 at Griffith.

Company spokeswoman Jennifer Gwynn said that meant these “sugar babies” stood to receive approximately $3000 a month in allowances and gifts from a willing Sugar Daddy to help cover tuition and living expenses.

But she said it was not prostitution.

"As you can imagine, we get this question a lot," Ms Gwynn said.

"The key difference between being a sugar baby and being a prostitute is the relationship. A prostitute is conducting a transaction between a customer. Our site is a dating website for people seeking a certain type of relationship. The two are completely different."

Ms Gywnn said men and women engaging in these "sugar" relationships agreed on the terms of their arrangement up front, and in the case of users looking for educational support, that could mean payments for textbooks and other learning materials.

"Sex is never required, though it may be aspired to," she said.

"The reality is, most sugar relationships resemble a typical boyfriend-girlfriend type relationship, with an added financial component."

According to company figures, there are roughly 7680 sugar babies in Queensland seeking various types of arrangements, and 530 "sugar daddies" and "sugar mommies" willing to offer their support.

The numbers were far greater in Sydney, where there were 14, 500 sugar babies, 800 sugar daddies and mommies last year. Melbourne had 9210 sugar babies, and 640 sugar daddies and mommies.

A spokeswoman for the University of Queensland said the matter wasn't something the institution was familiar with, or would make comment on.

The UQ Student Union was also approached for comment.

Ms Gywnn said the number of student memberships increased significantly around the world, with 58 per cent more students seeking a mutually beneficial relationship than the year before.

In Australia, schools in New South Wales and Victoria have experienced the most growth in new memberships, she said.

"I think in most nations the cost of a good education and getting by in life while you get an education is higher than it should be," Ms Gywnn said.

"While Australia is often applauded for its student loan program, the cost of living is still very high, and the job outlook low. It's a disconnect. Making an investment in your education doesn't always guarantee you a good job after all is said and done."

Presumably, that's where another sugar someone steps in.

Where the sugar babies are:

1. The University of Sydney 137
2. The University of Newcastle 114
3. Deakin University 106
4. La Trobe University 99
5. Curtin University 94
6. The Australian National University 89
7. The University of Adelaide 85
8. Edith Cowan University 78
9. Monash University 77
10. Victoria University 74
11. The University of Melbourne 69
12. Australian Catholic University 64
13. University of South Australia 58
14. The University of Western Australia 53
15. RMIT University 51
16. The University of Queensland 45
17. Macquarie University 42
18. Griffith University 37
19. The University of New England 35
20. Murdoch University 33

Tuesday, August 20, 2013

4 Ways To Score A Sugar Daddy

Following on from the raging success of my article ’4 Ways to How to Hook Up With a sugar (and the apparent keen interest in the topic of having or being a younger squeeze!) I’ve decided to help out my fellow females by writing an article on how to attract a sugar daddy while out on the town. So ladies, get your notebooks and pencils ready….

1. Tailor your style -  don’t assume that because you’re young and he’s old(er) that he’ll want your hemlines to be so short that he can tell what religion you are (you’re confusing dirty old pervert with sugar daddy, and we def want you to stay away from the former!) A lot of older men who are interested in dating/hooking up with younger women are sophisticated with a certain type of class (maybe not all but these are the types we’re interested in so let’s stick to that!) This means your style needs to be sexy but classy – less Pamela Anderson and more Blake Lively.  Sugar Daddies might ogle the girls with their tits and ass hanging out but they’d never be seen hooking up with or dating them. For more tips on what kind of wardrobe you’ll need to attract a sugar daddy check out this blog.

2. Use your best asset – no, not that. Nope not those either; I’m talking about your brain. The difference between younger and older men are that young men just have to look at a girl and they’re ready to go but older men like a bit of mental stimulation. Make sure you can hold a decent conversation on topics that are relevant and interesting to him and you’ll be physically and mentally stimulating your way to hooking you a sugar daddy.

3. Position yourself – get your mind out of the gutter, I’m talking about what real estate agents rant on about – that being ‘location, location, location’. Sugar daddies usually frequent high-class establishments like top end nightclubs, casinos and fancy bars. You generally don’t see them (or at least the ones you want to see!) in teenybopper clubs and tacky bars which you only go to for the 2 for 1 happy hour drink specials. So position yourself in the right location otherwise you’ll miss out!

4. Don’t embarrass yourself – what we’ve already covered is that sugar daddies are looking for younger women who are sexy and classy with a stunning brain, who can hold their own in a conversation and that are available in the joints they frequent. So don’t mess it all up by embarrassing yourself with your actions. This means:

a. Don’t get drunk – this is a huge turn-off for most guys but especially older ones. Having said that a little buzz won’t hurt.

b. Don’t act like a child – he wants to date/pick up a younger women who is sophisticated gorgeous and interesting not somebody who is going to be mistaken for his daughter.

c.  Don’t act insecure – these type of men are attracted to confident women who, although are younger, don’t feel or come across as insecure in the presence of older men. So act gracious but confident.

You’ve got the tools – now go out and get yourself some sugar

Monday, August 5, 2013

Cash-poor students use website to find sugar daddies (and mummies) to foot education bills

STUDENTS struggling to pay university fees are turning to sugar daddies as a new source of income.
Statistics released this week show the number of uni students who joined international sugar daddy dating site Seeking Arrangement has surged by 154 percent.

Most members are from the US but profiles have also been submitted from Australia, Europe, Southeast Asia and India.

The site says sugar daddies wanting to apply from Australia should "always be respectful and generous".

"Some call you a mentor, sponsor or benefactor. But no matter what your desires may be, you are brutally honest about who you are, what you expect and what you offer".

On Tuesday, the New York Post reported that almost 300 New York University students signed up for a “mutually beneficial” arrangement with rich older men via the site last year.

Hundreds more young women from the elite Columbia, Cornell and Syracuse universities had also recently joined the service.

Alex Cranshaw, 22, who graduated from NYU last year, told the Post that three of his female classmates had sugar daddies — including a woman whose benefactor financed a whole semester in Madrid.

“He funded her tuition, paid for her housing, gave her spending money and paid for her airfare,” Mr Cranshaw said.

"She told her parents she got a scholarship. They had no idea.”

The trend is causing anger amongst other students forced to work multiple jobs to pay for rising tuition fees.

"Clearly, we need more financial aid if those are the lengths people are going to pay for school,” NYU theatre major Ashley Thaxton, 20, said.

The site is not limited to facilitating hook-ups between young women and wealthy men; dozens of "sugar mummies" are also listed and members can search for male or female "sugar babies" - most of them cash-poor students.

Sugar babies looking for sugar daddies or mummies state the monthly allowance they expect to receive (profiles seen by www.australiansugardaddy.com show many young women asking for up to US$10,000 in pocket money) while sugar daddies and mummies "looking for somebody to spoil" state how much they can afford to lavish on a sugar baby.
The average university “sugar baby” receives about US$3,000 a month in allowances and gifts from her sugar daddy, enough to cover tuition and living expenses at most institutions, according to the site's spokeswoman Jennifer Gwynn.

In New York City, where cost of living and learning are higher, sugar babies can fetch as much as US$4,000 a month.

NYU and Columbia are among the most expensive universities in the country, with Columbia ranking third with US$59,208 in total annual costs and NYU ranking fifth with US$58,858 in total annual costs, a recent Forbes magazine survey found.

Are you an Australian sugar daddy, sugar mummy or sugar baby?
Share your story below in comments or just tell us what you think.

Monday, July 29, 2013

Are sugar daddies and sugar babies the future of the online dating?

Match.com and eHarmony not working out for you? Wish you could do away with that endless pre-date conversation and cut straight to the chase - and the bedroom? Jonathan Heaf goes inside the controversial new sugar daddy (and sugar baby) website where it's your wallet, rather than your wit, that really counts

Let's start with Nabokov, as where elsedo you begin when discussing sexual dalliances between older men and, in some cases, inappropriately young women? I reread the Russian novelist's indisputable best last summer, sitting around a pool in southern Italy drinking endless volcanic-red negronis. Affected? Not really. It was just the other books I'd packed - Nerd Do Well by Simon Pegg (what was I thinking?) and Alan Hollinghurst's superb, yet almost too beauti­ful, The Stranger's Child - didn't quite match the balmy summer setting of Puglia in peak season, nor my lascivious mood.

I have to say, I'd forgotten (almost) the power of Nabokov's strong blue prose in Lolita, and was delighted to be shocked and discomforted at some of the passages again. What snagged and struck my own biographi­cal chord, quietly biting on ice in the sun, was just how helplessly, uncontrollably, depend­ently entranced Humbert Humbert becomes by his darling nymphet. Through bribe, barter or blackmail, there's nothing our antihero won't do, say or buy to keep his Lolita by his cloying side and away from the world's judgemental gaze.

Let's face it, we've all been there. OK, not necessarily illegally with a 14-year-old schoolgirl, but we've all beenthere: locked in lust or in a relationship we've known to be morally corrupt or fatally toxic (for whatever reason) but unable to quit. The insanity of it all is the fuel in the male machine. Beauty and desire, especially youthful beauty and especially traditionally unattainable desire, can do that to a man - make him go gaga. And make him do terrible, wicked things.

Humbert Humbert, you might argue, is the daddy of all sugardaddies. And I wonder what he would have made of SeekingArrangement.com - the dating website set up by 41-year-old MIT graduate Brandon Wade (real name Brandon Wey) in 2006 that acts as a "fixer" for "modern sugar daddies" and "goal-seeking sugarbabies".

Click on the site and it looks like any other dating website (eHarmony or Match.com, for example): a long list of "personals" listed, male and female, with all relevant "interests" catalogued alongside out-of-focus Facebook-style profile pictures. The difference between SeekingArrangement.com, which has more than 600,000 paying members - a figure growing each month - and the other sites is the uncomfortable, some would say shocking, honesty of the romantic transactions.

Take site subscriber "Dave". For the sake of this article and legality, "Dave" isn't this member's real name. On his profile page, "Dave" says he lives and works in Texas. In the "About me" section, he gives up a little more information - "Age: 40; Height: 1.85 metres; Body type: average; Eye colour: blue; Ethnicity: white; Annual income: more than $1m." It's significant to note that the "Annual income" information is placed prominently at the top of the page.

Dave goes on to explain he's "seeking a princess to spoil", under which he elabo­rates as to what he's after: "I am a single white male and work in the Houston, Texas area... I am looking for fun and business. I am looking for a lady who enjoys the finer things in life. I love the water and I spend time in the Bahamas on a large boat... I love the moun­tains in the winter to snow ski and ride snow­mobiles and enjoy hot tubs with friends. I am in Vegas several times a year... I love to gamble and see the shows and enjoy the nightlife. Age is just a number to me. It does not matter if your [sic] 18 or 38 as long as your [sic] fun with a good heart and have a great attitude and enjoy life. I am looking for a friend or companion for a short or long-term arrangement. It all depends on what we both decide we want. If it turns out to be something more that's great."

Under each profile, for each listed "sugar daddy", the user gets to explain a little more about the "Arrangement I am seeking". It's here where the site's success and controversy becomes abundantly clear - the "arrange­ments" organised are about men (the "sugar daddies") willing to pay a set amount of money for the time and attentions (a broad word) of women, usually much younger women, here called "sugar babies". The way in which "babe" has morphed into "babies" here is quite obviously rather disturbing.

Under "My budget", Dave writes simply: "Open - amount negotiable." Then a little further down he expands: "I am looking for a fun girl with a monthly/weekly allowance for her. The amount depends on the person and her availability... If you can or are inter­ested in moving/relocating to Houston to live for an allowance and possible apartment let me know when you contact me."

Other men are less subtle. The next sugar daddy, a 49-year-old from Edina, Minnesota, who goes by the moniker Mr Fashionista, says he's a social drinker and a hedge-fund manager with a net worth of $2-5m (£1-3m), which works out to an annual income of $250,000-$300,000 (£160,000-£190,000). His budget for an "arrangement" with a sugar baby is between $1,000-$3,000 (£650- £2,000) a month. Mr Fashionista - whose profile pictures include him sitting in a stretch limo and hugging supermodel Karolina Kurkova - is looking for a "very stunning, beautiful girl or woman, in great shape, slim and/or fit athletic (busty is good, but not necessary) who is somewhat of an extrovert, yet easy-going and laid-back at the same time. Someone who can adapt easily to sudden changes in schedule... Ages 18 to 32. If you are in college, or went to college, that's also a big plus..."

The listings go further. "Mike" is a 61-year-old retired businessman who lives in Canada and Greece. His suggested allowance is, again, between $1,000-$3,000 (£650-£2,000) per month, and he believes "intimacy and sex is the main ingredient that makes travel pleas­urable". Mike is seeking a "part-time arrange­ment: an intimate travel companion and lover for a week or two at a time for a few times a year to enjoy romantic holidays together, all expenses paid, plus the agreed upon allow­ance pro-rated for the trip duration". Type of sugar baby wanted? "Slim, 24 to 40 years old" and someone who can hold a "good conversa­tion", is "conservatively dressed", has a "sense of humour", but is "sensuous and sexual in private". His final few lines include: "Sex should be uncomplicated and fun and fre­quent! If you are this girl, then e-mail me!"

Thursday, July 18, 2013

Seeking Arrangement: College Students Using 'Sugar Daddies' To Pay Off Loan Debt

NEW YORK -- On a Sunday morning in late May, Taylor left her Harlem apartment and boarded a train for Greenwich, Conn. She planned on spending the day with a man she had met online, but not in person.

Taylor, a 22-year-old student at Hunter College, had confided in her roommate about the trip and they agreed to swap text messages during the day to make sure she was safe.

Once in Greenwich, a man who appeared significantly older than his advertised age of 42 greeted Taylor at the train station and then drove her to the largest house she had ever seen. He changed into his swimming trunks, she put on a skimpy bathing suit, and then, by the side of his pool, she rubbed sunscreen into the folds of his sagging back -- bracing herself to endure an afternoon of sex with someone she suspected was actually about 30 years her senior.

Taylor doubted that her client could relate to someone who had grown up black and poor in the South Bronx. While he summered on Martha's Vineyard, she'd likely pass another July and August working retail in Times Square.

A love match it wasn't. But then again, this was no ordinary date.

A month prior, faced with about $15,000 in unpaid tuition and overdue bills, Taylor and her roommate typed "tuition," "debt," and "money for school" into Google. A website called SeekingArrangement.com popped up. Intrigued by the promise of what the site billed as a "college tuition sugar daddy," Taylor created a "sugar baby" profile and eventually connected with the man from Greenwich. ("Taylor" is the pseudonym she uses with men she meets online. Neither she nor any of the other women interviewed for this article permitted their real names be used.)

In her profile on the site, Taylor describes herself as "a full-time college student studying psychology and looking to meet someone to help pay the bills." Photos on the site show her in revealing outfits, a mane of caramel-colored hair framing her face. But unlike other dating sites, where a user might also list preferred hobbies or desired traits, Taylor instead indicates preferences for a "sugar daddy" and an "arrangement" in the range of $1,000 to $3,000 a month.
Saddled with piles of student debt and a job-scarce, lackluster economy, current college students and recent graduates are selling themselves to pursue a diploma or pay down their loans. An increasing number, according to the owners of websites that broker such hook-ups, have taken to the web in search of online suitors or wealthy benefactors who, in exchange for sex, companionship, or both, might help with the bills.

The past few years have taken an especially brutal toll on the plans and expectations of 20-somethings. As unemployment rates tick steadily higher, starting salaries have plummeted. Meanwhile, according to Jeffrey Jensen Arnett, a professor of psychology at Clark University, about 85 percent of the class of 2011 will likely move back in with their parents during some period of their post-college years, compared with 40 percent a decade ago.

Besides moving back home, many 20-somethings are beginning their adult lives shouldering substantial amounts of student loan debt. According to Mark Kantrowitz, who publishes the financial aid websites Fastweb.com and Finaid.org, while the average 2011 graduate finished school with about $27,200 in debt, many are straining to pay off significantly greater loans.

Enter the sugar daddy, sugar baby phenomenon. This particular dynamic preceded the economic meltdown, of course. Rich guys well past their prime have been plunking down money for thousands of years in search of a tryst or something more with women half their age -- and women, willingly or not, have made themselves available. With the whole process going digital, women passing through a system of higher education that fosters indebtedness are using the anonymity of the web to sell their wares and pay down their college loans.

"Over the past few years, the number of college students using our site has exploded," says Brandon Wade, the 41-year-old founder of Seeking Arrangement. Of the site's approximately 800,000 members, Wade estimates that 35 percent are students. "College students are one of the biggest segments of our sugar babies and the numbers are growing all the time."

Wade rewards students who use a .edu email address to register on Seeking Arrangement by automatically upgrading their free, basic membership to a premium membership, allowing them to send unlimited free messages and granting them exclusive access to the site's cadre of VIP sugar daddies. The site also includes a complimentary stamp on student profiles, certifying them as a "college sugar baby."

Wade sees his company as providing a unique service, a chance for "men and women living through tough economic times to afford college." He bristles at the notion that he's merely running a thinly veiled, digital bordello, choosing instead to describe his site as one that facilitates "mutually beneficial relationships."
Taylor doesn't explicitly refer to what she was doing in Greenwich as prostitution, but she now allows that her primary motivation was, indeed, money. She and her host ended up in his bedroom, where he peeled off her bikini.
"I just wanted to get it over and done with as quickly as possible," recalls Taylor, forcing out a nervous smile. "I just wanted to get out of that situation as safely as possible, pay off my debt, and move on."

While she and her host hadn't agreed to a set amount of money, on the drive back to the train station in Greenwich he handed her $350 in cash. She pocketed the envelope, seeing it as decent money for half a day's work. But once on the train and no longer worried for her safety, she started to agonize over what she had just done.

"I never thought it would come to this. I got on the train and I felt dirty. I mean, I had just gotten money for having sex," says Taylor, who never heard from the guy in Greenwich again. "I guess I accomplished what I needed to do. I needed the money for school. I just did what needed to be done."
And she's still doing what needs to be done. With tuition due in September to pay for her last semester of college, Taylor's back on the hunt for other, more lucrative online hookups.


"It's a very expensive job," says Jack, a 70-year-old sugar daddy, who describes himself as a "humanitarian" interested in helping young women in financial need. Jack isn't the name that appears on his American Express black card, but an identity he uses when shopping online for companionship and sex.

Jack says he meets up twice a week with a young woman from Seeking Arrangement. He typically forks over about $500 a night -- and that's not including lavish dinners at Daniel or shopping excursions on Madison Avenue.

"Unlike a traditional escort service, I was surprised to find such an educated, smart population," says Jack, during cocktail hour recently at the Ritz-Carlton in Manhattan. He said he lives next door in a penthouse apartment overlooking Central Park South and pays $22,000 a month in rent.

In his profile on Seeking Arrangement, Jack describes himself as a 67-year-old with a bachelor's degree. Prior to retiring, the divorced Charleston, S.C., native says he founded four financial services companies. But after taking a big hit in the financial crisis and being forced to downsize, Jack says he had to part ways with his private jet due to what he describes as "reduced circumstances." On the site, he lists his annual income as $1 million and his net worth as something between $50 and $100 million.

While sugar babies can create profiles on Seeking Arrangement free of charge and a regular sugar daddy membership costs $50 each month, Jack pays $2,400 a year to belong to the Diamond Club. For a sugar daddy willing to pay up, the site says it verifies his identity, annual income, and net worth and then ensures his profile gets the most traction by continually allowing it to pop up in the top tier of search results.

Educated, debt-ridden 20-somethings happen to be an age demographic that intersects nicely with Jack's preferences. "I only go out with girls 25 and under," says Jack, whose thick head of white hair and bushy eyebrows form a halo around a red, flushed face. "But I can't walk into a bar and go up to a 25-year-old. They'd think I'm a pervert. So, this is how I go about meeting them."

As he continues, he repeatedly glances over his shoulder to make sure no one is listening.

"Most of these young women have debt from school," says Jack, who finds most young women also carry an average of $8,000 in credit-card debt. "I guess I like the college girls more because I think of their student debt as good debt. At least it seems like I'm helping them out, like I'm helping them to get a better life."

"By the way, how old are you?" he asks, inching closer.

"Older than 25," I respond.

Thursday, July 11, 2013

Students sweet-talked by sugar daddies who pay their school fees

STUDENTS at Gold Coast universities have signed up with a website to be "sugar babies" for rich older men who pay their school fees and shower them with expensive gifts.
Many of the women are in their teens or early 20s and are quick to deny it is a form of prostitution - insisting they do not have to sleep with the sugar daddies.

A spokeswoman for American online dating website AustralianSugarDaddy.com said yesterday almost 100 local students had signed up as sugar babies in a bid to get cashed-up and loved-up.

"The average Australian sugar baby receives a monthly allowance of $3000 from her sugar daddy," she said.

"By dating someone who is successful and better off, her chances of finding success after graduation are much greater. Not to mention the reduced amount of stress if school is being paid for by someone else."

Figures revealed the website was most popular among Griffith University students, with 44 sugar babies registered from the Gold Coast campus.

Numbers were slightly lower at Bond University with 21 users, and Southern Cross University (SCU) had 13 students looking for a sugar daddy.

The cost of a single subject at Bond University is upwards of $3600 while Griffith and SCU students pay anywhere from $500 to just over $3500.

However, it is not only students using the service, with over 6000 other Gold Coast women signed up, and just under 1000 local hopeful sugar daddies.
The popularity of Seeking Arrangement is increasing, with the number of Australian users growing by 58 per cent since last year.

The spokeswoman said the popularity of the website was due to the financial security it could provide women.

"At a time when a degree does not necessarily guarantee you a high-paying job, women are finding it more difficult to settle in any aspect of life, including her relationship," she said.

"Every woman should want to date a gentleman, a generous man who doesn't mind spoiling his girlfriend a bit, helping her with school or bills as needed. Just like every man wants a beautiful woman."

While the website is aimed at "connecting generous men with beautiful women", the spokeswoman said it was not to be mistaken for an escort service.

"Our members are looking for relationships, not a transaction," she said.
"We do not allow any solicitation of sex for money, and prohibit known escorts from using our site."